Time for yourself
Posted: 13 Jun 2023, 20:20
I'm curious to hear how other dads get hobby time out of the house. Nights like tonight, if I want to game or work on my own projects at home, I can--my wife works swing and my kids are in bed so I can get at it.
I'm trying to find ways to get those out of house hobbies done. Weekends are when I get to see my wife and kids the most so I find it really hard to leave to go do something just for myself. As a result, activities are things more like walks/hikes that the kids can handle, 2-3 miles of biking on mostly flat, etc; tame things the kids can keep up on.
Doing anything longer or that takes longer to get to like what would have been an easy day trip in the Before Children Era, feels almost impossible now. It's so much more work.
I know it's something I just need to get used to, I just really miss the ease of heading out for a couple hours instead of the now common sloth pace of bathroom breaks, getting everyone drinks and snacks, just trying to get OUT THE DOOR.
I know none of this is novel. I'm just...tired. Not in general, of parenting. I want and need a break from kids. I used to feel bad about that. I don't anymore because I know it let's me be a better dad. It's just so dang hard to get.
I don't know that I'm asking anything here. I'm happy to hear other dads' thoughts, though.
I'm trying to find ways to get those out of house hobbies done. Weekends are when I get to see my wife and kids the most so I find it really hard to leave to go do something just for myself. As a result, activities are things more like walks/hikes that the kids can handle, 2-3 miles of biking on mostly flat, etc; tame things the kids can keep up on.
Doing anything longer or that takes longer to get to like what would have been an easy day trip in the Before Children Era, feels almost impossible now. It's so much more work.
I know it's something I just need to get used to, I just really miss the ease of heading out for a couple hours instead of the now common sloth pace of bathroom breaks, getting everyone drinks and snacks, just trying to get OUT THE DOOR.
I know none of this is novel. I'm just...tired. Not in general, of parenting. I want and need a break from kids. I used to feel bad about that. I don't anymore because I know it let's me be a better dad. It's just so dang hard to get.
I don't know that I'm asking anything here. I'm happy to hear other dads' thoughts, though.